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[Homer J]

hello 👋🐨👑🫅👸

long long story short, my bestie (friend) is in hospital currently and if anyone can write anything supportive below more than welcome

if not no worries, i am though, but its either go to bed, like im doing that though, or not, so not, im not there, but still concerned, like really concerned but cross fingers 🤞🤞🤞

 

[Ekans2011]

Hi, I am not very good at this kind of thing but I know what it is like to be anxious about someone; I was anxious for almost 3 months when my wife was still in Ukraine at the outbreak of the war, I was anxious when my grandpa died in the hospital while I was in the middle of the Atlantic, I am still anxious with my grandma who is going off the deep end, I have also experienced the other side of the coin that is when friends and relatives were anxious about me: about a terrible accident when I was 16, about cancer when I was 23, and I don't think there's any use in continuing.

There is nothing I can say that will really help, but all I feel like telling you and your friend is to never beat yourself up and never give up fighting; if you don't fight, you have no chance of winning. I'm still here fighting at 45 💪🤞

 

[Martinr36]

think positive, and remember if they need treatment, then there's no better place to be than in a hospital where they will get all the treatment that they require.

So just stay strong and positive👍

 

[TonyCarter]

All you can do is to show your concern, offer your support, without being too maudlin...and stay positive for them.

Luckily my mate likes my sarcasm as I keep calling him a skiver, and to get back to bloody work.

The guy I used to go to Nurburgring with every year, has also been through a very rough patch over the last few years (since his second Covid dose), and as he’s 5 hours away in Cornwall I’ve found it very difficult to actually go and visit him as much as I’d want. He’s had muscle loss, tendons/ligaments detaching from his knees, covid relapses requiring hospital stays and heavy antiviral treatments, etc. Each time he’s almost out of the woods he relapses.

I have regular 2 hour long calls with him, but I’d rather be there in person, and until this year every time I’d arrange to visit, there was always some excuse from his side to cancel it. Of course, a lot of the reasons were genuine…but they were still things I could have helped with if I got down there.

There’s been the medical side, which has meant both him and his wife have been out of work (he’s a self-employed engineer), and so there!s been very little money coming, and their rural property is a money pit as it’s listed…meaning everything is expensive to fix…and they’re constantly gambling with electricity/internet as all the wires come across trees; if the power was fine then they’d lose a part of one of their roofs; If they need any building work it takes 6 months to get anyone.

This is the first year in 3 that he’s felt well enough to go back to Germany with me (we leave tomorrow), and this is only happening because his daughter is not in college/working for these 2 weeks, and is going to look after her mother who is waiting for 2 hip replacements…and can’t work/drive at the moment. He’s been having to do all the driving to and from his/her family in Cheshire & Essex (they’re in Cornwall), and he’s been doing over 1000 miles a week.

 

[BlessedSquirrel]

As someone who's had a struggle for the last couple of years, and a couple of friends have been going through a similar thing.

The most valuable thing for me has just been someone to hear me, having someone actually there with you is only more impactful cos you can touch their arm or give them a hug.

Similarly for my friends, I can get a bit desperate sometimes when they're emotional and feel I need to give them answers and ways of getting themselves out of those feelings, but actually it's simply hearing them that they need, if I can do that then their emotions will work themselves out as they need to.